ok,this may sound wierd, but, has anyone ever met someone and fell for them in a short period? like it was meant to be?
here's why i ask...
on another site i occasionally talked with this woman. a few days ago she asked me to call her, i also gave her my number. now mind you, we had chatted a couple of times online. anywho, it ended up she called me. it was pretty instant when it just hit both of us. today we talked for a long time, learning alot about each other and our lives.
i won't get into every detail, and no, this isn't me feeling sorry for her. she is soon to be divorced and just found she has breast cancer. she was worried all this would turn me off, which it doesn't.
after talking today, and neither one being able to meet very soon, she asked me to go on a 7 day cruise with her and if i would accept the invitation, which of course was a yes. but i am also going to fly out to see her in a month or so.
this has hit us both so fast. but we both feel the same about one another and are constantly calling. we also miss not talking in the time between.
i know i've fallen for her and her for me. and we want one another badly.
also, after the divorce is final, she plans on moving here.
we are just totally immersed in one another. does this sound odd to anyone? i'm still in a bit of a whirlwind from it all, but am thinking straight.
now i kinda forgot why i asked that. for the first time in a while i'm actually in a good mood.
Yes. I think I knew my husband was the one almost immediately actualy
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It does sound odd, but only because it's not the kind of thing that happens every day. If it feels right to you then it feels right, time will tell what it turns into but you should trust your feelings, IMO.
I am personally skeptical about these kinds of things, but that's why I consider myself a disappointed optimist (I hope for things to go well but aren't surprised when they fall short). I've also never felt the way you're describing and haven't ever found someone I feel a soul-mate connection with (not mutual at least).
So you do what feels right for you, and regardless of the circumstance, if you're happy that's good. I would worry about the woman's pending divorce and the emotional turmoil of just learning about breast cancer, but that doesn't necessarily mean her feelings are confused, you could both be made for each other and if it works out that way I think that'd be wonderful!
Ok, now I can sincerely say that for me I felt instant attraction to Dan the first time I met him...this was when I had just begun my move to divorce my ex. I'd not dropped the bomb on my ex at that point yet, but was slowly moving toward it trying to get my stuff altogether.
Here is why my ex is my ex...we met online, just like you have this person. I thought this man was something he wasn't and I was lonely. Just out of a 4 year relationship with another man who I thought may have been the one, but turned out not to be. Anyway back to the EX:
He came over to visit me in the states. Yep, he was from another country for those of you who didn't know that (Rick has known me far far too long and knows this whole thing). He came over a few times and here I was 30 years old and feeling worthless...he fed me all sorts of lines and promised me rainbows and butterflies. I went over to visit for the Millennium and came back engaged. My family was not happy about this and I didn't know because they never said anything.
We got married after going through the whole immigration process, which by the way is NOT easy! To those who think you can just marry someone in the states and they can stay...you are oh so very sadly misinformed. Went through all this stuff, got married and he changed into Mr. Hyde immediately!
I guess what I'm saying is be EXTREMELY wary of online relationships man. I am living proof that it can go horribly wrong and after a couple of years of communicating via online too. It's not like I just married this guy out of the blue. He came over several times to the States to visit.
I personally feel this seems a bit odd and I'm highly cautious due to my experience. She sounds like she has some issues, which we all do, but you won't know the extent of her issues for real possibly. You never know how far a person will take lies just to not be alone anymore.
I've never once questioned my love for Dan and the end of this month we've been together for 3 years. BTW - we actually met online and then in person at a FJ G2G in Manchester. It can work, but just don't be blinded by the want to be with someone. Don't let your emotions dictate what you do. It can really hurt you. She's told you she's going through a divorce, can she prove that to you? I'm sorry for sounding so untrusting, but I've been burned really bad.
Best of luck though...and yes, you can fall in love or have strong feelings for someone in a very short time...like I said, just stay alert!
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Chelly03PZEV wrote: Ok, now I can sincerely say that for me I felt instant attraction to Dan the first time I met him...this was when I had just begun my move to divorce my ex. I'd not dropped the bomb on my ex at that point yet, but was slowly moving toward it trying to get my stuff altogether.
Here is why my ex is my ex...we met online, just like you have this person. I thought this man was something he wasn't and I was lonely. Just out of a 4 year relationship with another man who I thought may have been the one, but turned out not to be. Anyway back to the EX:
He came over to visit me in the states. Yep, he was from another country for those of you who didn't know that (Rick has known me far far too long and knows this whole thing). He came over a few times and here I was 30 years old and feeling worthless...he fed me all sorts of lines and promised me rainbows and butterflies. I went over to visit for the Millennium and came back engaged. My family was not happy about this and I didn't know because they never said anything.
We got married after going through the whole immigration process, which by the way is NOT easy! To those who think you can just marry someone in the states and they can stay...you are oh so very sadly misinformed. Went through all this stuff, got married and he changed into Mr. Hyde immediately!
I guess what I'm saying is be EXTREMELY wary of online relationships man. I am living proof that it can go horribly wrong and after a couple of years of communicating via online too. It's not like I just married this guy out of the blue. He came over several times to the States to visit.
I personally feel this seems a bit odd and I'm highly cautious due to my experience. She sounds like she has some issues, which we all do, but you won't know the extent of her issues for real possibly. You never know how far a person will take lies just to not be alone anymore.
I've never once questioned my love for Dan and the end of this month we've been together for 3 years. BTW - we actually met online and then in person at a FJ G2G in Manchester. It can work, but just don't be blinded by the want to be with someone. Don't let your emotions dictate what you do. It can really hurt you. She's told you she's going through a divorce, can she prove that to you? I'm sorry for sounding so untrusting, but I've been burned really bad.
Best of luck though...and yes, you can fall in love or have strong feelings for someone in a very short time...like I said, just stay alert!
I totally agree with Chelly on this one. Both Chelly and Dan know me very well, this is also including Rick. What I have gone through. I thought that the women that I was married to for 8years was the one for me. No we did not meet online. We actually met through someone else. I have go through the online dating thing. That for the most part has gone really bad or even to the point of Physco on me. That's teh main reason why I have not really dated since Feb. of this year. As an end result, I lost everything to dating someone online. I mean I lost every thing. And yes that does mean teh car that I used to have. Teh 2003 Pitchblack ZX3 Focus is NO MORE. She was taken almost a month ago by the finance company. Now I can say that I am outta Focus litteraly. All because on someone who I thought I could trust online. Now I have to rebuild my life all over again. GRRRRRRR
i am trying to be cautious with it. i have fallen into some of the same predicamates some have from being online. thats the reason i am no longer on yahoo personals.
this tho i somehow feel is genuine, i don't know why, but i just have a good feeling about this one.
i've spent alot of hours on the phone with her talking about our lives.and i know she isn't saying everything, and i don't expect her to right away. but she has poured alot of her heart out to me. she has asked for nothing from me other than time to talk and time to go on a cruise with her which she has purchased.
things just click between the two of us. pretty much we have fallen for each other already.
I'm just going to see where this leads, which seems to be in a very good direction.
The one major difference I find between the lnternet and real life is:
On the internet you can portray anyone, anything you want. This is what my ex did to me.
There are a lot more who had me fooled and I've played 'roles' online as well in the past.
Face to Face you can't fake what you look like. On the internet you can feed ppl. anything you want.
my advice for all is don't lead with your heart. that's what will hurt you.
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I beleive, because I did it. I met my husband and fell in loooooooooooove. Then got married 3 months after. That is true love I beleive, when you just have no worries or doubt anything. You just know it's right.
I am very happy for you Jack. I wish you the best.
flying out there in a couple of weeks. nervous, but wanting
right now, things are so great between us its not funny. figure i'll spend about 5 days with her there and then they will come up here. may sound wierd, but we're already trying to find where we want to live
just got back from the trip.
all i can say is it is great. awkward at first but didnt take long at all with us. shes coming for a visit in a month to check out if she likes it up here.
i've never enjoyed being with someone this much in my life. i seriously did not want to leave her after 6 days of being together. I guess love is the only way to explain it
last few days she was pretty sick and lost her voice. but we really did enjoy the time we had together.
god, i so cant wait till she gets here...
Just a note, just to be that person to throw the 'but' into the topic...
Remember, you've been chatting online and now you've gone on a cruise for free and all is fun...fun ends at some point in all relationships and life begins. I'm not saying you can't have fun in a relationship...I laugh everyday with Dan, but it takes work.
I guess I"m just playing devil's advocate because I was swept off my feet the same way you're describing your situation and I was extremely off when that ring went on my finger...he turned into a monster and my life got turned upsidedown.
Just keep perspective!
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goinloco1 wrote: just got back from the trip.
all i can say is it is great. awkward at first but didnt take long at all with us. shes coming for a visit in a month to check out if she likes it up here.
i've never enjoyed being with someone this much in my life. i seriously did not want to leave her after 6 days of being together. I guess love is the only way to explain it
last few days she was pretty sick and lost her voice. but we really did enjoy the time we had together.
god, i so cant wait till she gets here...
Glad to hear. So glad your happy , you desserve it.
Yes it can happen, and I hope that's what happened for you. I'll throw in a different point to consider though. There's a BIG difference between having a relationship and getting married. Go nuts with any relationship; go VERY cautiously when it comes to taking it to the step of marriage. I think particularly for men, but probably as much for women now, there's really no reason or incentive to get married. If you end up going in that direction, for the love of God you and everyone else out there get a prenuptual agreement!!!!!!!!!!! Did I stress that enough for you? Don't question it, don't let her (or him) question it, just do it.
Yes, it's stupid to buy flares and keep them on your boat until the one time you need it and then you think you're the smartest person in the world. A prenup is the same thing. Should a divorce come, the Romeo and Juliets of the world will sue one another over who gets to keep the bottle of poison. Please, while you're in your right mind, go to an attorney and have him or her draw up a simple contract that says who owns what now, how you might to divide property up in the event of a divorce, and that you agree to work together through collaborative law to finalize your divorce in the easiest, least stressful way possible. You'll be glad you have the flares in the event you need them.
A lot of people dislike prenups because they think it's a bad way to start a marriage, that sense of "mistrust" from the get-go. But it doesn't have to be about that at all, it really can be very helpful because as I'm sure all of us have experienced at some level, life throws you curves! You can hope for the best and work hard, but you just Never Know what might happen. If/when I ever get married, there will be a prenup, I don't care if all I have to my name is that damn Focus, it's just a good thing to do.
Another aspect, my mom just got remarried last November. Her and my stepdad had a prenup written by her lawyer, because my stepdad was still in financial debt (since bene resolved). From what I understand, if he were to die or something, she coulda been held as a guarantor of HIS debts, that he accrued before they even met. That's not right, but the prenup excludes her from that repsonsibility, Should somehting terrible happen. It makes sense, it's not about mistrust, it's about being safe for one another in uncertain circumstances.
now i kinda forgot why i asked that. for the first time in a while i'm actually in a good mood.
That was great! 
