I love my wife. I truly do. She's the best thing that ever happened to me in my life.
Most days.
But not when we're having company over for a party or dinner. When that happens, she freaks out. Her name becomes "She, who must be obeyed." Let me give you some background. We have the household tasks split evenly. She pays all the bills, does all the paperwork, correspondence, all the cooking. I do all the cleaning. Personally. I like to clean, (probably missed my calling as a custodian), so I do all of it, and I mean all. I'm also pretty handy around the house, so I also do needed repairs, etc.
So, today, our kids and grandkids came for dinner. Starting yesterday, "She, who must be obeyed" started barking orders telling me what to clean & how to clean it. "Don't forget this, & when you're finished you can do the ....." I was assigned a new job on average every 10-15 min throught the day. Naturally, it continued today, right up until the time the kids got here. As soon as the planning began, I became completely stupid. I didn't know how or when to do anything. I didn't know shit. Suddenly, I'm being told how to do the dishes, how to vacuum, how to dust, even how to dress.
Y'know, I think I pretty much know how to do those things. I do them every day. But "She, who must be obeyed" wasn't having any of it. She went into her control freak mode, & that was that. Me? Well, I felt like a 4th grader, who was in a special ed class. I just couldn't do anything right, or good enough, or fast enough.
To her extreme displeasure, I tried to ignore "She who must be obeyed" & pretty much did my own thing. And y'know what. When the kids got here, everything was ready & just perfect. "She who must be obeyed" has now forgotton all about her schedule. The kids are gone now, & everything is back to normal.
Fights between us are extremely rare. We didn't fight over this, but for me, it's just hell going through this. No moral to the story. I don't know if all women do this. I just wanted to rant a little. Thanks for listening.
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Well, at least you got through it.
Christmas eve and I'm just taking a break from cleaning and setting up for tomorrow morning. I don't mind the cleaning and stuff, it's mindless and actually relaxing isn't it.
My ex was like that to a certain extent and there was no point arguing about it. She just got in to the panic mode a couple of times a year when "important" events were taking place. just figured it was easier to go easier and try and reduce her stress levels.
Must admit that I'm enjoying living alone. All the stress is self induced.
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A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams...John Barrymore
Codger wrote: Well, at least you got through it.
Christmas eve and I'm just taking a break from cleaning and setting up for tomorrow morning. I don't mind the cleaning and stuff, it's mindless and actually relaxing isn't it.
My ex was like that to a certain extent and there was no point arguing about it. She just got in to the panic mode a couple of times a year when "important" events were taking place. just figured it was easier to go easier and try and reduce her stress levels.
Must admit that I'm enjoying living alone. All the stress is self induced.
Panic mode is a good analogy. I generally don't say much, or give her a hard time when she's like that. No sense in adding to the problem. It's like pouring gasoline on a fire.
As far as cleaning is concerned, I actually really like it. Like you said, it requires almost no gray matter aerobics, & it IS relaxing. Painting is another one I like to do. Not art, but walls.
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True RPIJG, they all get it but to varying degrees. I think the male version is being on time for things. The: where the hell is she, how can she take so long, we're going to miss the previews, what if the line is long... thing that I think most men have but also to degrees.
Thankfully, my wife isn't too bad about this sort of thing, but we also don't entertain... preferably ever.
Although still having the choice FocusOnBlue, staying single does have its advantages. Don't buy into the line that everyone should get married, it's just not for everybody.
